Hindsight...

It is a year since my last post, give or take two weeks.
I have continued along the same career path and am hopefully just six or so months away from my qualification.
(Bring me that diploma)
Sadly the relationship I spoke of before only lasted a further six months and was then terminated.
I discovered that obtaining my diploma was more important than maintaining my relationship which had fallen on rough ground.
A choice had to be made and in that situation I found that really, there was no real choice to make.
If you are friends with two people and one of them makes you make a choice, they are not your friend, therefore you choose the friend who did not make you choose.
The same goes for my man and my work.
One must accept the other to achieve a balance.
So for the last six months I have been a free agent and I had forgotten how complicated that could be.
Everyone around me is getting married and having babies and I'm here experimenting with different approaches to dating.
I have to admit, I'm not an advocate for online dating and it's not something I'm doing for results.
But curiosity got the better of me and I just had to give it a shot.
So far I have ascertained that the majority of the male species within my chosen age range, 23 - 33, are only out for one thing.
The males within this denomination seem to think that to achieve their ultimate goal, the best course of action is to send girls photos of their genitalia.
On enquiry, none of them have been able to claim this method successful.
So has the internet eradicated romance?
I have faith that it still exists but maybe it's just not possible online.
Either way, it's fascinating.
The opening lines and attempts at smooth chat.
Is it any wonder that people have a messed up ideal when the examples followed are television soaps, "reality" television and computer games.
There is hope however.
Hope that there is somebody out there for each and every one of us.
Hope that romance is alive and coming to find me.
Hope that there are girls out there who do fall in love with a photo of an erect penis.

The Rules of Arrangement

At some point in their lives, most people will have what I like to call an “arrangement”.

This is where two single adults use each other in a consensual manor for sexual gain.
But if the rules are not set from the beginning or if they’re unclear, the game can get a little difficult. 

-When selecting a team mate, one must seek a player with equal expectations.

-I find that it is wise to choose someone with whom you have had previous encounters as this guarantees satisfaction for both parties.
-Ideally, they will be in a similar position in life and neither candidate will have any suitcases open at the time of selection. All baggage should be locked away in storage I.e. no angry ex’s to ruin the fun.

 -Although an “arrangement” is not a relationship in the regular sense of the word, it is a relationship of sorts. Therefore trust is required for it to be successful. 

-Further to trusting each other, you need to know how many other players there are. Is this an exclusive deal? Or is your partner playing on different boards? 

-When entering into an “arrangement” you need someone who, for this purpose, will be your partner, not your opponent.